So the money I put to one side from my January exam marking has now been spent, the puppy having tried his best to use it all first, I did still manage keep some.
Did buying the laptop make me happy though? Not so much. The buying experience was not without its issues and I can safely say that British sales assistants have no customer service skills, where as the two non-British sales assistants that eventually helped me buy something were excellent even though English was there second language. I'm not sure if it was the sales process that dulled my excitement or just that material possessions don't mean so much anymore, but it didn't make me happy. Yes I was excited to get it home, set up and play, but having done that for a couple of hours, the novelty wore off quite quickly. I am pleased however that it should make the upcoming exam marking a little more efficient.
So what did I wish for when I started this journey? To be honest I had to remind myself! Well here's the list:
1. To travel - trip to France and plans for a late deal holiday in July tick that box.
2. To visit nice restaurants - Retaileyes are making this very achievable at the moment.
3. To beable to cover unexpected bills without stressing - I have a back up fund which has so far paid for the new laptop and the car insurance which was going to cost an extra £100 to pay monthly so not quite unexpected bills, but it was nice to have the money there ready and waiting.
4. To be able to treat myself now and again (posh food, nice flowers, clothes and shoes) - A purchase that has made me happy is a couple of bunches of roses (silly I know) they cost £2.50 from the local market (much cheaper and prettier than Tesco's offerings) and are yellow, orange and red, nice and bright and cheery and orange roses always remind me of my nan and more recently my wedding having had orange roses in the bouquet as a tribute to my nan. I excitedly brought the two little bunches home and arranged/stuck them in a vase and now everytime I see them it cheers me up. Proof I think that my desire for the goodlife does not hinge on the desire for money and expensive things.
5. Not to work my contracted 37 hours a week and bring home the same amount of work to do or worry about in my own time. - I still bring a little bit of work home especially at this time of year when mock exams are essential, but it is not keeping me awake at night and certainly doesn't come close to 37 hours a week.
6. To take long walks with the puppy - every day he either gets a long walk of a game of frisbee (if the weather isn't so good) and sometimes both.
7. To take time to look around and take a breath (corny I know) - I have found myself doing this more and more even on the rainy days under the safety of my umbrella and things don't look so bad despite all the doom and gloom reported on the news.
8. Not to be stressed and miserable - I'm not stressed and I don't think I'm miserable, having seen an old friend yesterday for the first time in months he said I seem really happy and I know its not an act and my friend having known me for a long time now can read me fairly well. I don't feel the need to put on a brave face or make things out to be better than they are. Life might not be how I expected in terms of my career, but its turning out pretty well and I'm realising there are more important things in life.
I have had quiet a lucky couple of weeks, besides my two pruchases I have eaten out several times, mainly thanks to retaileyes, which ranged from local pub to more Frankie and Benny's visits.
We also had a free spa day on the bank holiday which was excellent although on enquiring about membership fees we found that the joining fee alone was £200 for a couple! I think I'll stick to the freebies :-)
I've also continued the clothes shopping and bought a couple more items, but its got to stop, despite relegating some items to the charity shop that are two sizes too big for me (I can't remember being that big, I've clearly wiped it from my memory) I still feel guilty for buying new things and I'm fretting over how much I've spent, wondering how I can possibly afford it on a part time wage, but I'm not using the overdraft or the credit card so what's there to feel bad about? Don't worry the bills are not going unpaid either.
Although all of the good has to be balanced with the fact that we live with two practical strangers (lodgers) who are nice and polite and considerate, but is it on any newly married couples wish list to share their home in this way? I can't complain though, even though I grumble a little when sometimes I would just like the house to myself, at the end of the day they are the ones helping to pay for this new life and so I will smile and be gracious (most of the time)
In other news I finally got a result from my grievance! Having just returned from a meeting at the citizen's advice bureau armed with key phrases to put in a snotty letter to HR requesting a speedy resolution, I drafted my letter, checked and double checked and logged into my work email to send a copy via email not only to HR, but also to the principal for added emphasis. I was thwarted however by an email at the top of the list from HR with the conclusion of the grievance investigation. Needless to say that after 7 weeks of investigating, they did not find the case in my favour, nor did they answer the points raised in the grievance. My appeal letter has already been delivered by hand to the HR department, not that I expect that to be a very fruitful endeavour and a week later I have not had a response.
My colleagues however have also been sticking up for themsleves and have arranged a collective consultation meeting for the department, which the principal has been invited to, in order to discuss the lack of communication and support that has been demonstrated so far (now being halfway through the 90 day period) The meeting went well (we congratulated ourselves as we returned to the office) we got some answers and promise of more next week, but the issue seems to be that legally HR have to consult with the collective representatives which in this case is UCU and Unison, and as only one of our department is a union memeber it means that our little group has not been represented at all. We're are on to it now though and our one union member has offered to put forward all our questions and concerns. The principal did not attend by the way, actually she read the emailed invitation and didn't bother to respond - how rude!
And so the situation so far:
Employment: Still part-time 0.33 of a fulltime contract (exam marking starts next week)
Lodgers: 2
Eating out: 6 times over the last couple of weeks thanks to retaileyes, a treat from hubby and a treat from a friend (I'm a very lucky girl at the moment)
Hubby: 1 (7months of married bliss minus one argument)
Dog: 1 (still in very good health and looking beautiful and shiny after a recent bath)
Stepson: 1 (coming to visit for a few days over half term)
No Spend Days: few and far between after all my treats, starting next week I plan to be well behaved though.
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